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Yesterday my friend I've known since KINDERGARTEN found out through an ex, that I am a stripper. She was shocked at first but then decided that instead of being shocked she would be pissed off. She then told me how disgusting I am and how she is mad that someone she has know for soooo long could keep such a big secret from her, but then she said she was glad I did because she would NEVER be caught dead hanging out with a "disgusting fuckin slut"...

This was someone I truly loved and believed loved me. It hurts me deeply to think that people can change their view of someone for something so.....unimportant. What ever happened to "Sandbox love never dies"?.....

I AM A STRIPPER. I HAVE BEEN A PORNSTAR. I am not a low class low budget whore who just gives it up to anyone. I have a future that I need to prepare for and I am a full time student, I will make my money any way I SEE FIT. This just confirms my point that no matter how much good you do in your life you will ALWAYS be judged for the bad. I am a volunteer at an retirement home, animal shelter and boys and girls club...but all that flies out the window when someone finds out what my job is...It's just really discouraging...

I show my body off because, I have worked hard for it. I am proud of it, not because I was "raped or abused" or any of the stuff that a lot of people in the sex industry "claim". I am just an average person with a not-so-average job...I have dreams and aspirations for my life that don't revolve around sex at all...I just hope that people will see that we do care and have dreams and goals just as the next person does.

Posted by A11K4 at 15:41 on September 25th, 2009 at 3:41PM
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willia2r	Posted on 08:29AM on Oct 13th, 2009 At times, friends forget what the term means. Unfortunately your friend let it roll from their tongue before they thought through the event. Many times we engage our mouths prior to giving full benefit of the situation...hopefully she will apologize and you can regain your sandlot.
lordporksword	Posted on 02:32PM on Oct 17th, 2009 I am constantly amazed how much hypocrisy there is in so called "respectable society" towards marginal and unconventional occupations, such as prostitutes, strippers and ** stars. Hollywood makes millions out of movies about ** and strippers. Jenna Jamieson who moved from stripping to movies is now a TV chat-show celebrity and best-selling author. Pretty Woman featured Julia Roberts in the role of a hooker and she became the darling of middle class America. Yet still there is a stigma attached to women who in real life choose to market their bodies for money. Why? The girl owns her body. She should be free to do with it whatever she chooses. I would imagine that stars would view their gorgeous, well-toned bodies as an invaluable asset. Their prowess in oral, vaginal and anal sex is a talent, carefully honed, practised and perfected, in the same way as athletes train and develop their muscles as runners or high jumpers. And yet the stigma continues. The reason that hookers strippers and ** stars can make a living is because men in general are huge consumers of what these much maligned women have to offer. Sex workers are as necessary for our society as doctors or teachers, even more important perhaps. They should be applauded for their essential role : allowing guys to get their rocks off. Let us raise our champagne glasses and drink to the legions of women who work so tirelessly to provide horny men with titillating entertainment and the sexual delights that they crave.
JLaRue1959	Posted on 02:07PM on Oct 25th, 2009 No matter what you do or how well you do it, there will always be detractors and nay sayers ... They are the ones with the problem / issue, not you. You don't have to own their negativity. You can ignore them ... You can smile at them and say "thank you for your opinion", turn and walk away (my favorite) ... Good luck and more power to you ... And a big thank yoiu for your sharing on EP -- you're a very sexy lady :-)
A11K4	Posted on 06:37PM on Oct 26th, 2009 Thank ALL OF YOU for your comments...U guys brought tears lol, I appreciate all of you very much and want u to know that u are ALL beautiful people.
Mercator	Posted on 05:49AM on Nov 1st, 2009 I'd much rather have someone as open and honest as you for a friend than someone who is puritanical and judgemental. Follow your heart in life, and look back in many years time and be proud of who you are and what you achieved. I admire you for what you have done so far, and wish you all the very best with where you wish to go next.
moreandless	Posted on 10:48AM on Nov 2nd, 2009 i'm pretty sure by now that you're an honest and good person with a great heart. those who judge you are to blame!
kimcarr	Posted on 01:19PM on Nov 18th, 2009 Your "friend" is no friend in my book. If she was a true friend she would be there for you mo matter what. If you have a nice body why not use it to benifit yourself and make your life easier. I knew a girl who was the submissive to a Master, he did all sorts of things to her but she wes one of the most caring people i have ever met. You do what you want to do girl and hang the others. I have. baby.
JoanSoloman	Posted on 03:08PM on Dec 1st, 2009 Anyone who's that extreme and emotional (not to mention abusive) about something has some real issues. I'm sorry that you were disappointed and hurt by her, but look on the bright side - you don't have to be her.
weallcrash	Posted on 02:48PM on Feb 5th, 2010 I live in dana point and i would love to watch you and your bf/hubby get it on...you are beautiful...please let me know
eversharp533	Posted on 12:47PM on Jul 16th, 2010 These guys have said it all. I agree with them.
roughNready	Posted on 10:30AM on Jul 17th, 2010 LOLOLOLOL You work in the sex industry. I work for the government.<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< Which do you think peolpe would find dirtier?>>>>^^ All the ladies and gentlemen that commented here are right. Forget about her comment and move on. But don't be to quick to forget about her. I truly believe that most people are a product of their environment. Although you know her well there may be some deep issue you don't know about her that could have caused her reaction. After all, if you didn't tell her from the get-go about your work she, too, might have thought you were keeping it as a secret you were not proud to share - hence the reaction of it being dirty. Perhaps. Let her go and let her grow. When she sees that you haven't changed from the decent, loving person you are she may come back ... or she may be too embarassed about her reaction and may be afraid to come back. Try writing her a note, if you still want her as a friend, and see if she replies. You'll prove yourself, again, as being a decent person that makes the right choices and she'll have a chance at redeeming herself.
Orson2	Posted on 06:02AM on Mar 25th, 2011 you are a good young woman. Besides. Much of what **** stars and strippers and (yes-prostitutes) do falls into the category of social work~listening to what MEn really want! THAT is an important service!!
quantam	Posted on 05:12AM on Jun 6th, 2011 Do what you feel is right and what is right for you. You are the one who has to feed yourself and pay your bills; your Kinder friend certainly isn't. Its not easy doing what you are doing..quite frankly it hard work (I know a few ladies who do it for a living). If you enjoy it and it makes you happy or if it just is a means to and end...its work and should be viewed as such.
pai8	Posted on 06:37PM on Oct 17th, 2011 wow your friend doesn't really sound like a friend. hope you got over it and moving on with your life.
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